Caregiving is stressful, but you can do something about it

Clinical depression diagnosed in about half of caregivers, goes along with stress

Published: March 11, 2018

By Aprille Hanson
Associate Editor

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Caregivers often find themselves juggling multiple demanding roles. Recognizing signs of stress or depression can help a caregiver know it’s time to get help.

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Caregivers often find themselves juggling multiple demanding roles. Recognizing signs of stress or depression can help a caregiver know it’s time to get help.

Visiting ministry cares for caregivers

A parish community can often be a support system for those who are struggling. For over-worked caregivers or those who need care and are often forgotten, Retha Fausett founded the St. Joseph Visiting Ministry in Conway.

“If they need someone just to sit with their loved one while they go to the doctor or if they need someone to come every week to just visit with their person or if they need someone to come for two hours, whatever they need they tell me,” Fausett said. The group has a handful of volunteers on call.

The idea initially came, she said, when a fellow parishioner was missing Mass because her ailing husband could no longer go to church and there was no one to sit with him.

Fausett said she hopes to gain more volunteers and receive more calls from caregivers because taking time to “stop and breathe” is important.

“It’s nice to be able to go, even time to go to the library yourself or to go get your hair cut, anything where you can have peace and time for you … God wants us to take care of ourselves too and we cannot take care of our loved ones if we are totally exhausted,” she said. “I want the parishioners to understand if we can give of ourselves an hour or two to others, how much are we really giving those people? We are really giving them so much more than that hour.”

Dr. Sherry Simon, a clinical psychologist and parishioner at Christ the King Church in Little Rock, said she sees caregivers several times a week who fill various roles, from caring for an elderly parent to a disabled child. Because people are often thrust into a caregiving role, Simon said it’s important to remember that all of life’s other stresses — work, family, etc. — do not go away.

“Oftentimes it takes a long time to recognize their stress and to do something about it,” she said.

According to Caregiver.org, studies show about 46 to 59 percent of caregivers are clinically depressed. Simon said there are several signs that indicate when a person may be too stressed, many of which are also signs of depression:

• Sleep deprivation

• Weight loss or gain

• Increase in blood pressure, cholesterol

• Increase in alcohol, tobacco or other drug use in an attempt to “self-medicate.”

• Decrease in energy and not taking pleasure in activities a person used to enjoy

• Increased isolation

If any of the above symptoms are unremitting or a caregiver experiences increased irritability or impulsive anger, memory loss or concentration problems and panic attacks, they should seek out therapy, Simon said.

For caregivers needing to de-stress, Simon offered some tips:

• Take short breaks daily: “So many people get absolutely obsessed with staying with the person,” but taking breaks is healthy. “Simply walking outside and being in nature, take a moment to be outside, be aware of the sun on your face.”

• Ask family or friends for help: “People are hesitant to ask for help but for someone to come in … and just watch (the person being cared for) while taking a nap so they can take a break, that can be very helpful.”

• Go to the doctor: It’s important to make sure a caregiver makes time to go to a doctor to make sure their own health is not jeopardized, Simon said.

• Be aware of emotions: “Oftentimes they just repress all” the sadness, anger, etc., but they need to “be aware of their emotions and not shut them down or think they don’t have time to listen to their own feelings.”

For more information and resources, visit Caregiver.org.

Visiting ministry cares for caregivers

The idea initially came, she said, when a fellow parishioner was missing Mass because her ailing husband could no longer go to church and there was no one to sit with him.

Fausett said she hopes to gain more volunteers and receive more calls from caregivers because taking time to “stop and breathe” is important.

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